Does the thought of meeting new people scare you?
Do you tend to favor books and binge watching over nights out with friends?
Well, you might just be an introvert.
Oh introverts, we feel for you. You’re sensitive, you’re interesting and you’re full of fantastic observations that the world rarely gets to hear! The truth is, being an introvert can be pretty great, but it’s less than ideal when looking for love. To help out the introverted singles of Vancouver, we’ve partnered with Events & Adventures to highlight the best ways for introverts to put themselves out there.
Get real with your comfort zone
First things first, you’re not going to be able to meet new people without getting a little bit outside your comfort zone. That said, these tips are designed to make that leap just a little less intimidating. Remember, you can go just as far as you need, even if you take baby steps the whole way.
That said, we get that it’s hard to try new things. In fact our brains our programmed to “protect” us from anything that feels unfamiliar, so don’t be too hard on yourself in the process. Being social is learned skill and everyone has to start somewhere.
Try group events as opposed to one-on-one dates
Group events are a great way to take the pressure of the whole dating experience. Not only will you get to meet a ton of new people, you can focus on making friends rather than finding your soulmate. For introverts, this is also a practical way to avoid the pressure of having to keep a conversation going one-on-one. If there’s a group of people chatting, you can take the time you need to feel comfortable and share your amazing personality whenever you feel ready.
Get your talking points in order
If talking to strangers sounds straight up frightening to you, just come prepared. Talking about work, family and hobbies are all great ways to get to know people. Think about what you want to know and what you want to say, hey, even keep some notes on your phone that you can study on your way out.
Try new things, lots of them!
Whether its action sports or a rooftop dance party, doing new and interesting things is one of the best ways to break out of your introverted shell. Let’s put it this way, if you keep doing the same things, how could your life ever change? You can’t keep doing the same things and expect different results, so look at what’s going on in your city and embrace what’s new!
Focus on being yourself, not impressing others
Often times, introverts focus on making the people around them happy as a way of avoiding having to express themselves. Well, let us tell you, you won’t find your match if you’re not willing to reveal the real you. Remember, it’s not just about finding anyone, it’s about finding people you truly get along with and maybe even finding the one in the process. If you’re chatting with someone and things don’t click, don’t take it personally. If you express yourself, you’ll attract the right people.
So are you ready to mingle like an extrovert?
Events & Adventures is an invitation-only club that hosts and curates super-fun group outings for like-minded people, encouraging you to meet new people (and maybe find love) in a pressure-free environment. With dozens of events happening every month in Vancouver, Events & Adventures is an AWESOME way to meet new people, whether you’re introverted or not.
To learn more, visit eventsandadventures.com/vancouver