Longtime West End senior and community activist Sharyle Lyndon plans to attend a forum at the Fountainhead Pub on Davie Street Wednesday night dubbed Gay and Grey.
The event is part of a series by CBC Radio One’s On The Coast exploring issues facing an entire generation of the LGBT communities facing old age. The Courier chatted with Lyndon about some of the issues she faces as an older adult living in the West End. Lyndon turned 64 on Tuesday, the day of the Courier interview.
How long have you lived in the West End?
I’ve been back in Vancouver [from Hawaii] for 19 years and have lived in the West End for 15.
Do you see much loneliness amongst the older LGBT communities?
Loneliness is a huge issue. I go out and I’m a talkative person, but at the bus stop it took a while for all the little old ladies to warm up to me because of the way that I dress. [Lyndon’s trademark wardrobe includes a lot of leather clothing and studded accessories.] Some have come right out and said, “I was afraid of you, but you’re so nice.” So now I usually miss a bus or two so I can stay and talk to them.
A lot more people my age grew up at a time when it wasn’t an easy time to come out, so they’re not out to everyone. Also, for most of my adult life I’ve watched my friends die [from HIV or AIDS], but now they’re dying from other illnesses or old age. There are a lot of people out there who are losing friends.
What kind of volunteer work do you do?
A lot — and it’s not limited to the gay and lesbian communities. I volunteer for A Loving Spoonful and McLaren Housing because I want to give back, but I’m also involved with organizations from around the world. It’s not just about gays and lesbians, it’s about human rights.
What are some of the biggest issues facing residents of the West End?
A lot of people moved here over the years because it’s close to St. Paul’s Hospital and because it’s easy to get around without a car, but the cost of rent is getting so high it’s made it very difficult for some people to stay. This is their home, but they can’t afford it anymore.
Is the West End still considered a safe neighbourhood for members of the LGBT communities?
Yes and no. There are so many events and the people who come from the suburbs treat our hood like a garbage can. That’s when it’s not safe. They don’t seem to understand or respect the diversity of this community. It’s especially hard for seniors who aren’t as outspoken, but it’s going to be up to the younger generation to fight our fight for us.
Any suggestions to make the city more LGBT friendly?
Change seems to happen through dialogue, not violence. I don’t want to lose our Pride flags, but there also needs to be more education about the past. Educational forums are a good way to go.
This interview was edited and condensed following the Courier interview.
